God is working to give everybody an eternal, spiritual marriage relationship, if they want it. As we know, marriages on earth sometimes work well, sometimes not well, and sometimes don’t happen at all, so how does that affect our experiences in the afterlife?
Marriage is eternal
Marriage love is especially precious to God, so it is possible to continue working on a marriage that started on Earth even while separated. Love doesn’t have to stop when the heart stops.
These two are not even separated by the death of one, since the spirit of the deceased husband or wife continues to live with the husband or wife who is not yet deceased. And this continues until the other one’s death, when they meet again and reunite themselves and love each other more tenderly than before because they are in the spiritual world.Marriage Love 321
God is working all the time to bring people to marriage love, if they’re willing.
For anyone who longs for true marriage love the Lord provides compatibility. If it does not happen on earth, then he provides for it in the heavens. This is because all marriages based on true marriage love are arranged by the Lord. . . . For this reason it is arranged for the two to be born and for them to be gradually prepared for marriage under the Lord’s oversight.Marriage Love 229
It’ll be easy to recognize and find your soulmate in the spiritual world, but the soulmate connection isn’t always instant on earth.
Whether you felt an instant soul connection with your life partner or took a long time to recognize it, real marriage love builds up over a long process both now and in life after death.
You don’t need to achieve a deep soulmate relationship during earthly life to have it continue after death. All that matters is that the desire and intention got started – it’ll move to a deeper level in the afterlife.
Those early “falling in love” feelings actually aren’t the real thing yet. But they’re an important start, and also a preview of what love can be!
It will all make sense
Love can be complicated, but the afterlife will make it all clear. So if you do choose to remarry, what happens in the afterlife?
Your death experience won’t introduce a love triangle, where each person has to pick who they care the most for. You won’t have to decide between one person’s sense of humor and someone else’s kindness.
God already knows the deepest matters of your heart, and will help you discover what will bring everyone the greatest happiness. And in the afterlife, spending time together is as easy as just thinking about each other.
There are even specific processes that help people who were married on earth learn their own true feelings about the relationship. This might take you out of your comfort zone, but it’s all for the best.
It often happens that married partners meet [after death] and welcome each other joyfully. They stay together as well, but for a longer or shorter time depending on how happily they had lived together in the world. Ultimately, unless they had been united by real marriage love (which is a union of minds from heavenly love), they separate after having been together for a while.Heaven and Hell 494
Nothing will happen that doesn’t feel deeply right to everyone involved, because God knows our deepest wants. You won’t get lost looking for a sign of a soulmate – your heart doesn’t stop working, and it’ll lead the way.
Marriage love for singles
Surprisingly, marriage love can grow even if you never marry. No matter who or how many people you have been married to, you can work on marrying goodness and truth in yourself.
When we commit to working toward a loving goal, then God is actually building heaven and heavenly marriage within us. If we just make some positive effort in one area of our lives and marriage relationships, the Lord will be working on the whole thing.
Genuine marriage love is part of a whole deeper way of thinking, feeling and living.
The reason marriage love is a desire that belongs to the inner or spiritual self is that the more intelligent and wise we become, the more inwardly focused or spiritual we become and the more perfectly our minds are structured. This new frame of mind can receive marriage love because it can discern and feel a spiritual pleasure within it, a pleasure that is blissful deep down. From this comes a kind of earthly pleasure that draws its soul, its life, and its essence from that spiritual pleasure.Marriage Love 95
Spiritual wisdom isn’t about what you know, but what you do. Strengthening marriage love is a matter of simply doing the right thing and treating people with kindness and respect.
Like anything, the more we work on something, the more it develops. But remember it’s a process. Perfection isn’t the point. Just steady progress.
The real love in marriage is found only among those who crave wisdom and therefore make steady progress toward it.Marriage Love 98
God wants you to work on developing marriage love inside yourself, whether you are widowed, married, or single. This isn’t about meeting your soulmate, but working on your own spiritual growth, and your own relationship with God. This will strengthen your eternal marriage, no matter who it’s with.
Everyone’s journey to genuine and eternal marriage love will be unique, and God is watching over it all. You can trust that God wants the highest joy for you and for everyone, and if you want fulfilling marriage love, it will be granted.
You can continue your study with our News From Heaven episode Two Souls Can Join At The Chest.
And for extras on this topic from the offTheLeftEye team listen to the related Inside offTheLeftEye podcast episode: Marriage Work After Death and Swedenborg’s Anonymity Change.