Marriage on earth can be complicated. Many of us wonder, will things change in the afterlife?

We ask God for guidance, and wonder, do you marry your soulmate? Others wonder, what if your soulmate is not your spouse? What happens if your soulmate dies before you – will soulmates reunite?

And many more wonder, what if you never meet your soulmate? Some of us ask, will we ever find our twin flame? And, is it even possible – does God have a soulmate for everyone?

But you can count on this:

Each of us has a true soulmate relationship, a partner we truly belong with, no matter what our status on earth may be.

And here’s why…

Love After Death

Love is eternal, and doesn’t have to stop when the heart stops. We never really lose our soulmates to death.

If you were lucky enough to have met your soulmate on earth, that connection remains after death. Marriage love is especially precious to God, and so love transcends the death of a partner, and in fact can still grow!

We can continue working on a relationship that began on Earth, even if soulmates are separated.

[Married couples] are not even separated by the death of one, since the spirit of the deceased husband or wife continues to live with the husband or wife who is not yet deceased. And this continues until the other one’s death, when they meet again and reunite themselves and love each other more tenderly than before because they are in the spiritual world.

Emanuel Swedenborg, Marriage Love 321

How To Reunite With Your Soulmate

Finding love can be complicated, but the afterlife will make it all clear. Meeting your true soulmate may or may not have happened on earth, and perhaps you had more than one partner who you loved.

Married partners will find each other after death, and reunite in the spiritual world, where they spend some time together and see if the relationship feels like a true marriage.

It often happens that married partners meet [after death] and welcome each other joyfully. They stay together as well, but for a longer or shorter time depending on how happily they had lived together in the world. Ultimately, unless they had been united by real marriage love (which is a union of minds from heavenly love), they separate after having been together for a while.

Emanuel Swedenborg, Heaven and Hell 494

Nothing will happen that doesn’t feel deeply right to everyone involved, because God knows our deepest wants. You won’t get lost looking for a sign of a soulmate – your heart will lead the way, and you will find who you are supposed to meet.

What If I Never Meet My Soulmate On Earth?

Actually, marriage love can grow even if you never marry. No matter who or how many people you have been married to, you can work on marrying goodness and truth in yourself.

Personal growth is a vital part of marriage. When we commit to loving goals, and act from love, then God is actually building heaven and heavenly marriage within us.

When we make positive effort towards creating healthy relationships with ourselves and with others, we truly are working with the Lord to help us find our soulmate, a true heart and soul connection. It is the effort we make within that ultimately will be how we meet our true love, and how we will be with our soulmate in heaven.

God Is Finding Your Soulmate

God works all the time to bring people marriage love, if it’s what they want. If you lead a life of thoughtfulness toward others, God will lead you to your soulmate.

For anyone who longs for true marriage love the Lord provides compatibility. If it does not happen on earth, then he provides for it in the heavens.

Emanuel Swedenborg, Marriage Love 229

While it may be easier for us to recognize and find our soulmate when we become angels in heaven, where everything is authentic and genuine, the work we do on ourselves while on earth creates the conditions that lead to blissful spiritual marriage.

Real love is a marathon, not a sprint. Nurture it, and it will grow; both now and in in the spiritual world, through steadfast commitment to love and spirituality.


Love survives the death of a partner, who is still with us even after they pass. Soulmates will reunite in heaven, and we will find our true partners, whether we found them on earth, or not.

Everyone’s journey to genuine and eternal marriage love will be unique, and God is watching over it all. You can trust that God wants the highest joy for you and for everyone!

To learn about Emanuel Swedenborg, whose nearly thirty years of open communication with the spiritual world informs this content, see this short video or read about his life and work here.


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  • When my late husband and I first met, I can’t say it was love at first sight because we weren’t all starry-eyed and stuff. But we felt comfortable in each other’s company, like we belonged together. We shared many of the same likes and supported each other’s likes. I was a writer and his belief in me helped me believe in myself to publish. A friend of ours said we acted like newlyweds even though we’d been married a decade at the time he said that.

    I lost him a month after our 25th wedding anniversary 8 years ago, and with that, lost any desire for life. I go through the motions of going to work, taking care of those who depend on me, but I can find no reason to seek out anything that brings me joy because it doesn’t seem to matter. I don’t even know what I want to do or experience. Before I met him, I never felt I deserved anything for myself. Since I lost him, I don’t know what I want for myself and not having him with me here makes it all feel empty and pointless anyway.

    • Pam, my heart breaks for you. It is devastating to lose the physical presence of your soulmate. The first section in this video (How You Will Find Your Soul Mate After Death) is called “working on your marriage across the veil.” You are married to your beloved RIGHT NOW. Everything you do to work on your own spiritual journey is work you are doing alongside of your husband’s ongoing spiritual journey. And also, everything you put effort toward in life is something that he is involved in, too. If he is the one who inspired you as a writer, then he would still be involved in inspiring you to write right now. Writing could be a way that you continue to connect with him, and to work with him, as you wait to fully join him in the afterlife someday. When my (Karin’s) young daughter died, I was devastated, but she and I had enjoyed reading stories together, so after a couple of years of grieving I began to work on writing stories, and I believe that it was an activity that the two of us were doing together. I found that I felt a peacefulness while writing for the first time since she had passed away. I hope and pray that you can find a way to find healing and peace, and a feeling and belief that your husband is still very much with you in spirit, in a very real way.

  • Thank you. I am working to be better at learning signs etc from him. Witnessed his 4 year old granddaughter telling him bye after a gathering for him week ago. So sweet, she waved at him and said bye poppa as she was getting ready to go home.

  • After 2 bad marriages for both of us, I finally met my soulmate and I am his. We were together for a year and he died a couple of months ago. I know he is with me.

    • I’m deeply sorry about your painful loss, Eva. But I’m glad you feel confident that your beloved is with you in spirit! Love and life are eternal, and the two of you will have a joyful reunion someday. Your story together continues! Wishing you support and comfort during this time of grief, and a path of healing and peace.

  • I love that you and your wife are dance partners! My wife passed a year and a half ago. I dance with her pillow to one of our songs every morning! Our reunions will be lovely!

  • What if your spouse was married before and that first spouse passed away. Then you marry the widow or widower and she or him passed away. How can be the spirit of the deceased be with the spirit of the not yet deceased when he or she is living with the first spouse in turn (in the world of spirits) according to Swedenborg?

    • Hello, Rudi! Swedenborg is talking about true soulmates when he says that the spirit of the deceased partner dwells with the one not yet deceased. So I guess it all depends upon who are the true soulmates in the scenario that you are describing!

      • Thank you Karin I believe I begin to understand the true soulmate relationship. After close to 47 years of marriage and being dance partners I still feel a strong connection to my deceased wife which makes me sad at times but mostly a feeling of nearness to her even after 9 years especially when I conduct the folk dance troupe that she founded.

        • What a beautiful life you and your wife built together. And that bond remains! I’m sure that your feelings of nearness to her are founded on truth — that you are very closely connected in spirit. And you will be able to do some wonderful dancing together in the future! ❤️

  • I lost my loving wife on Jan 2023, She was just 30 years and was suffering since 3 years with a rear cancer. I have been taking care of her till her last breath. I miss her every single day since she left. I am unable to focus, Is there a way I can talk to her ?

    • Ved, I am so deeply sorry for you painful loss. My heart breaks for you. What a gift you gave your dear wife, to take care of her the way you did. That love you expressed to her stays with her, and her spirit is still connected to yours. It is very normal to be unable to focus during these early stages of intense grief. Your heart and mind have been severely wounded by the loss, and it will take time to recover. Be patient with yourself, seek support from others, and pay attention to what you need each day to get through. You can talk to her any time, and she will receive your messages. Since she is now in the spiritual world, she can receive messages through thought and through love. I wish I could give you a way to be able to clearly receive messages back from her, but it is very difficult for communication to come into the earthly level from the spiritual world. My suggestion is that you talk to her and write to her whenever you want, believing that she is receiving what you send her, and then also try to stay open to much more subtle communications back from her — a thought, feeling, or memory that comes to you; a coincidence that feels meaningful. Take one day at a time, friend. I promise that it will not always hurt this badly, but be tender with yourself as you get through this initial, very understandable pain and confusion. — Karin

  • My love story is complicated. When I was 10, almost 7 years ago, my dad and I went to a baseball game. The team did this promotion where the staff throws out chocolate candies. This girl named Melanie got one, I didn’t. She saw that I was upset about not getting a chocolate, so she gave me hers. Somehow, we got to sitting with each other, and at one point, we were holding hands. I never got her number or address, so I have no way of contacting her. Do you think I will reunite with her again on Earth, and if not, in Heaven? I miss her so much.

    • Hello, Jason! Since this girl had such an impact on your heart, I’m sure that you will be able to reunite with her in the afterlife, and continue to explore your relationship!

  • My Princess passed away in January 2022. She passed in our home in my arms. Cancer took her. I prayed so hard for Jesus to heal her. He did. I know she is no longer in pain. I suppose I have what some refer to as complicated grief. I visit her grave daily. I know she is not in the ground. I go to pray, read my Bible, show her respect, admiration, and a love so deep it cannot be described. I have family to take care of, that is probably why God has left me here. I am doing my best to make Jesus and my sweet wife proud of me. It’s just hard.

    • Oh Joe, this first year of grief is so excruciating. Your daily visit to her grave is full of love, and I’m sure that the reading, prayer and loving thoughts you engage in while there are connecting you with her spirit. Also, taking care of family is loving work that is also connecting you with her. I have no doubt that she is very proud of you, and loves you more than ever. My heart goes out to you, Joe, and I wish you gentle healing.

    • Oh Jill, my heart goes out to you. What an excruciating loss to bear. It is terribly hard to adjust to losing the physical presence of a dear loved one. Yes, I believe you will be able to feel your soulmate around you, but it will take much more subtle forms, and you do need to go through the process of grieving the loss of his physical presence. He is still connected to you in love and in thought, and in spiritual reality, thought and love bring people close to each other. You can continue to send him love and messages in your mind, and he will receive your messages. As time goes on, see if you notice particular feelings, thoughts, memories and coincidences that may be him reaching out to you. As I say, it is subtle, but it is very real. But be patient with yourself! This is a huge adjustment, and you need time to recover and heal. Pay attention to what you need each day to get through, and turn to others for help when you need it. Watch all our episodes about spiritual soulmates and marriage, to assure you that your relationship with your beloved still exists. We are all wishing you gentle healing and peace! — Karin

    • I’m deeply sorry for your painful loss! We do not know of a way for you to have obvious, open communication with your beloved wife. But we know, from Swedenborg’s reports, that she is able to receive your thoughts and your feelings. So you can talk to her in your mind, and she will receive your messages. As for her present condition, please trust that God and the angels love her more than you can imagine, and are taking good care of her. ❤️

  • My high school sweetheart passed always two decades ago. He and I had a very passionate relationship. We were together 5 years. My longest relationship yet. I broke up with him because we were heading different directions. He died four years later. I find I think about him very often as I grow older. Is it possible to connect and rekindle our love in the afterlife even if we went separate paths in life? I knew he loved me deeply/-the most loved I’ve ever felt. He connected with another woman so I guess he fell in love again but I have heard it was a relationship of need and not love and that she used him. I just think about hik and wish I had the chance to rekindle w him. I still have his poems written for me years ago.

    • Jennifer, yes it is absolutely possible that you will reunite with him in the afterlife! And since he has been on your mind so much lately, that indicates to me that there is still a link there between your hearts and minds, which makes me feel sure that you will reunite to re-evaluate your relationship and find out what is there. Sometimes it’s just earthly issues that keep two people apart in this world. When those earthly issues are gone, people are free to explore the real depth to a relationship, without any external baggage in the way!

  • How do you know this? I would love to think it is true as I lost my soul mate to cancer in January. However, I know he is with me and I can feel his presence. Our love still burns strong.

    • Jean, I’m so deeply sorry for your recent, painful loss. I’m glad your heart knows that he is still with you. We get this information from the extensive writings of Emanuel Swedenborg (1688-1772), a brilliant scientist who had a spiritual crisis during his mid-50s, which led to a powerful vision of Christ and Swedenborg’s spiritual sight being opened. Afterwards, he spent the last 3 decades of his life having daily spiritual experiences and cataloging what he saw and learned. Here is a short video about Swedenborg: And here is an biographical article: I hope that helps!

  • I lost my husband of 9 years on 9/4/21 to covid. It all happened so fast, I thought he was coming home, then like that, he was on a ventilator, he woke for a moment, we looked in eachother’s eyes. I didn’t want to say that this was it, instead, a lot of I love you’s. We were soulmates, we met in our 40’s after disappointments in our first marriages. Only a short time together, I feel robbed in a way. I have had many signs from Christopher, I pray to live eternally with my love again…


    • Oh Jill, I’m so deeply sorry. How painfully shocking to lose Christopher so quickly. My heart goes out to you. But how beautiful that your last words with him here on earth were about your love for each other. That love continues! He is still with you in love and spirit. I’m so glad you are aware of signs from him. I hear you about feeling robbed. But I can also tell you, from experience, that as time goes by, it will not feel as though there is such a long time until you are together again. And someday, this time apart will feel like just a tiny blip compared to the eternity that you will spend together. I hope you have support as you recover and heal. Be patient with yourself as you grieve. This is a huge and painful shift. But it’s obvious that you know in your heart that you and Christopher are soul mates. Your lives are forever bonded together! Wishing you healing and peace. ❤️ — Karin

  • My other half LAKYTIA CLAYTON who just passed away on June 16th 2021 at 8:12pm in Plantation General Hospital ER after her heart stopped beating. The medical examiner said the cause of Death was COVID-19 and her HIV/HEPATITIS which shut down her body. They called her death (Natural Causes) since she did not die due to someone else causing her death. She was only 49. She was only 4 foot 2 inches tall and weighed 60 lbs. We met back on March 1st 1996. She was 23. I was 33. It was LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT FOR ME. I WAS MEZMERIZED. She got pregnant with our son in April 1997. Our son was born January. He is now 23. Her mother cremated her. I proposed marriage to her in 1997 with a Ring but she said she wasn’t ready. I said ok. We remained boyfriend/girlfriend and we lived together. I found out later that at the age of 4 she was Molested several times by her stepdad back in 1976. She told her mom about it on the 1st time. Her mom did nothing except slap her and demand that she stop blaming him and for her to go back to her bed where the molestations continued happening. This made her Mentally Ill with a Fragmented/Shattered Personality along with a Split Personality along with Schizophrenia. She also was Bipolar. Manic Depressive. She had PTSD. ANGER/RAGE ISSUES. Psychopathic/Sociopathic tendencies. Homicidal Rage. Multiple Personality Disorder. With all of these demons trapped inside of her made her turn to CRACK Cocaine which took over her life and slowly but surely destroyed it. A few months later she found out she had HIV. That devastated her. She already had a seizure history since childhood. Plus with all the stress in her life made her smoke cigarettes which eventually caused her to contract COPD which effected her Respiratory System. The HIV itself started causing her to lose weight rapidly so the Doctor prescribed MEGACESTROL which helps a person gain weight but unfortunately it came with side effects which were:. It made her Blood Pressure skyrocket plus it caused her to also sleep a whole lot as well. She had THRUSH in her mouth and on her tongue which is a complication of HIV which she took medicine for. She kept having UTIs and Severe Diarrhea. She also had NEUROPATHY IN HER LEGS which screwed her up MENTALLY CAUSE AT ONE TIME SHE WAS THE FASTEST RUNNER/CROSS COUNTRY ENDURANCE RUNNER IN THE STATE OF FLORIDA. Had I came into her life at an earlier stage I just know I could have became her Coach and helped her get into the OLYMPICS where I just know she would have won several GOLD MEDALS cause she was lightning fast. Her being tiny certainly had it’s benefits. The night she was transported by EMS to the hospital the Paramedics noticed that she had Severe Diarrhea and Labored Breathing which caused her to become unconscious and unresponsive. She wasn’t dead at that point. Just unconscious. They had her on Life Support in the Ambulance and they were performing CPR on her chest and with a bottle that was attached to her throat but they were unable to revive her. Even though she gave me Misery/Grief/Poverty/Suffering I still became her Representative Payee for her Social Security disability check which meant I made sure her bills were paid and I made sure she had food to eat as well. For those 25 years while she was in my life I protected her and cared for her and made sure she was always Happy and Comfortable. I still loved her dearly. We had stopped Making Love back in 1997. I really believed that GOD put her into my life for ME TO TAKE CARE OF. I always treated her life a Queen. I never abused her or hurt her. I never allowed anyone else to hurt her either. I have no regrets. I always picked her up to take her places even if it meant me having to burn hundreds of tanks of gas in my car. I gave her everything she ever needed or wanted. I paid for EVERYTHING. There wasn’t anything in this World that I would have denied her. I know I cared for her and loved her more than she loved me which is ok with me. She still trusted me and depended on me for many things in her daily life. With her Me and Her had a daily routine which was a pain in the ass at times but I eventually became accustomed to it. When she was in the street getting high using drugs I was still there in her corner as her SUPPORT SYSTEM. When she was in RECOVERY getting her act together while staying off of drugs I was still in her corner as her SUPPORT SYSTEM. Clean or Dirty I loved her either way without Condemnation or Judgement. I had Unconditional Love for this beautiful but disturbed human being named LAKYTIA ANNETTE CLAYTON to the moment she passed away that very evening in that Hospital ER Room. God loaned her to me for the last 25 years. He entrusted her to ME for Safekeeping. I did my absolute BEST to show her all of the love and affection and human understanding that she deserved. I made sure that she never went without anything. Never in my life have I ever loved see someone to the Depths of my Soul. There were several times I rescued her and saved her life. I even walked her out of HOSPICE right after the Doctor told her that she would die in HOSPICE. I prayed to God. He gave her the Strength and Energy and Renewed and Restored Health which enabled her to leave that HOSPICE. In a way I am glad she passed because that very evening she told her roommate that she was tired and that she couldn’t fight the ENEMY anymore and that she wanted to go HOME which meant GOD/HEAVEN where there definitely is no more PAIN OR SUFFERING. In her last 3 days of her life she was in pain and she was suffering. I did my best to ease her pain but she would always keep a lot of things from me cause she knew just how much I loved her. She did not DIE that evening. Only her body died. Her Attitude and Personality was connected to her SOUL. The Soul never does because it is made up of PURE ENERGY and you can not destroy PURE ENERGY. It only goes from 1 Point to another Point. The body is born with a expiration date just like a jug of milk. The body died and the SOUL LIVES ON. I don’t believe HEAVEN IS A PLACE YOU CAN SEE BUT INSTEAD ITS A PLACE WE WILL BE ABLE TO FEEL AND EXPERIENCE IN A SPIRITUAL WAY. Just like LOVE. You can’t see LOVE. But you can feel it. Lust is what you see. Love is what you feel. I died 2 times in my life and had 2 out of body experiences when I was 6 & 13 where I died 2 times. Since you are as somewhat connected to the SPIRITUAL WORLD do you believe ME AND HER WILL SEE EACH OTHER OR BECOME CONNECTED TO EACH OTHER AGAIN? Just wondering and curious. Please call me 954 274 6826 cell or Email me at:
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    Thank you for reading this.

    • William, thank you so much for sharing this tender story of unconditional love. I absolutely believe that you and Lakytia will reunite in the afterlife! Your love sustained her for all those difficult years, and that love will always be a part of her. Now that she is in the afterlife, free from Earthly traumas and addictions and illnesses, she will be able to love you in a way that she couldn’t on Earth. I’m sure her spirit stays close to you as she heals and starts a new phase in the spiritual world, and that your relationship is still very real even while each of you are on different sides of the veil. I have no doubt that when it is time for you to cross over someday, the two of you can continue your journey together. Thank you for all that you did for you. I hope that now you can take care of yourself as you adjust and recover from this loss. I am sending much love to both you and Lakytia, and I am wishing you healing and peace! — Karin

    • Wow your story really touched me I would like to talk if you can contact me three my email [email protected] got so much to ask and I thank you ever dearly for sharing your story I pray I hear from you soon! Thanks again my name is Lana.

    • Wow. I too had a love like this. Cant explain to anyone. We just loved eachother and without going into too much details. Thats all we could offer eachother. We are soulmates. Im not suicidal but i cant wait to reunite with him on the other side. I know we will be together again.

  • I was wondering, can you meet somebody again in heaven if you met them but accidentally missed the opportunity to be with them on earth?

    For example… i met this guy (stranger) last year that i had liked (have strong feelings for that i don’t think i will be able to get over…)

    But because of my own doings by no fault of my own (missed out opportunity’s to talk because of distractions/not realizing who he was etc) and with that i think now he has moved on thinking that i don’t care… (which i think he don’t care either now too..)

    I know this is silly because we are strangers… but i think that what if he is my soulmate due to lots of reasons….

    1 Being i think we met once before and i did not realize it until
    months/half a year after we talked

    2 The meeting was serendipitous for me

    Plus its not often i like a guy (this one not so much as the other 2 reasons though) and well… i’m middle aged now and i don’t think i will meet another…

    It seems like it was for us at first… but now it seems the world is against us…. (but there are so many coincidences involving him to make me think… but at the same time… all hope is lost. :()

    Also if he gets married but is my soul mate… will we still reunite in heaven? and if not… will we still be able to be friends in heaven? (even though we are strangers and he don’t care about me now..)

    And/or will he find out in heaven that those times we meant to talk but did not talk was not my fault?

    Sorry for so many hard questions.

    • Hello, Kerry! There is no need to worry. Something as important as one’s soulmate cannot simply be missed out on due to earthly circumstances or mistakes. If you and this man are meant to be together, that will become clear in the afterlife, whether he had ever been married to someone else or not. But if he is not with someone else right now, and there were just some misunderstandings, perhaps there will still be an opportunity to connect with him in this world and see if your feelings are mutual! Either way, you can trust that God will bring you and your soulmate together in the end, if not in this world, in the next. And you can most certainly be friends in the afterlife if not in this life.

  • This brought my heart joy as I met my soulmate when I was 18 and he died before we really ever got our chance at loving each other. That was 30 years ago and I have never felt the same for anyone else.

    • Oh, Annamarie, I’m so glad this video brings you hope for a joyful reunion someday. This earthly life seems long, but it will just be a blip compared to the eternity you two can spend together! Sending love to you both!

      • Wow this has bring joy to me my name is Nashon Stacey…I had someone who was love of my life,we cared for each other he loved me most. I remember him taking me to the hospital I was so sick about to give up but he begged me to stay with him…I gained that strength because the love I had for him I got well and we continued our normal life..I got this job out of my country so we had to part only for two years…we talked through the phone we skyped all of a sudden in this year January 31 while we were talking in the middle of the night he didn’t reply back the next day his sister asked if I’ve communicate with him I said last to talk to him was yester night..she told me he has not come back home since…The next morning the bad news cought me that he is was shocking and painful worse thing is that ive not even finish one year out of the country I can’t go back home to grief it’s so painful we had big plans our love was strong that no one could break it neither my family…all day I prayed to God everyday to protect him for me till I come back but there it goes the death took him …My question is will I see this love of my life again because we promised each other it’s till infinity..even if I get someone else will I still meet this love of my life I treasured so much?

        • Oh, Nashon, I’m so deeply sorry for this shocking and painful loss. Yes, absolutely, you will be able to continue your relationship with this man in the afterlife, even if you have a relationship with someone else here on earth before you die. In the afterlife, you will be with the one who is your true soulmate, who you had the deepest love and deepest bond with. Please take care of yourself as you recover from the loss, and go through the process of grief. We are wishing you you gradual healing, and peace. ❤️

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